Separate the words from your explanation
Write the person's exact sentence. Beside it, write what you assumed it meant. 'I need to think about it' is an observation. 'They cannot afford it' is an interpretation you still need to check.
The VIVID Selling Operating System · Book in progress
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Start with a selected passage from Ian Ross’s book. Then try a lesson and companion exercise that put its approach to work.
Selected excerpt · Chapter 1
The Revealing Paradigm
A convincing salesperson carries a conclusion into the room. A revealing salesperson carries curiosity about what the prospect already knows but hasn't articulated. Convincing activates the buyer's defenses. Revealing aligns you with their own thinking.
The most direct path into the revealing paradigm is through questions.
But the revealing paradigm isn't only about questions. It extends to all aspects of the sale, and particularly the emotional environment you create in the conversation. The pace you set. The silence you allow. The way you respond when the buyer says something important, with a pause that communicates: what you just said matters enough to deserve weight.
What to notice
Curiosity changes what you listen for.
You can bring a conclusion into a conversation, or a question that helps you understand the person's situation. The next sample shows a way to practice the difference.
- Identify the sentence that caught your attention.
- Separate it from the meaning you gave it.
- Ask a question that checks your understanding.
Sample lesson
Stay with the sentence before choosing your response.
A familiar objection can make you reach for a familiar reply. Pause long enough to establish what this person actually means.
Ask about the unfinished decision
Try: 'What would be most useful to think through before deciding?' Listen for a specific question, comparison, person, or next step. Their answer may change what you thought the conversation needed.
Check before moving forward
Summarize what you heard: 'So the part you want to understand is what happens next. Have I got that right?' Explain only what you can accurately establish, then ask what would be useful next.
Try it now
Recall one conversation that stalled. Write their last meaningful sentence, your interpretation, and one question that could have checked it.
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A useful place to begin.
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Find my starting focusSample companion · Getting underneath a vague answer
One useful next move
When someone says a situation is fine, difficult, or urgent, ask for one recent example. Then check your understanding: 'Have I understood that correctly?' Let their answer change your next question.
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